don't do it like a dude, GOD, you're supposed to be a LADY

[inferiarecoming]

What is it with men acting like it's them that gets to decide what 'lady-like' behaviour is? Seriously?

So I'm on youtube, and someone sends me this link to Jessie J and her single "Do It Like A Dude". I'm told she's like "the British Lady Gaga", which made me go a bit like this :/ because I love my Mama Monster and I'm really wary of people proclaiming other artists to be like her. I give it a go though and I have to admit, it's pretty darn catchy. Then I see "Do It Like a Dude - acoustic" and because I'm a sucker for a girl and a guitar, I check it out.

And damn.

Damn.

She can sing. She's not just autotuned nonsense and ridic dance moves. She has a set of pipes on her. So I get all excited and read through the comments, expecting people to be like "yay, finally another female artist who can actually carry a tune without the help of a computer" (and yes, I know, it's YouTube, I kind of set myself up for failure). Of course, some guy decides to leave a comment along the lines of:

"this is degrading and she is not acting like a lady"

And maybe it's because I'm tired and I don't feel well but FUCK. What the hell is this 'lady-like' behaviour, and who gets to decide what is 'lady-like' and what isn't? From what I can see, it's apparently men. Fuck that. (this is pretty much what I said in response to that guy,  btw.)

So yes. Just wanted to put that out there because it really pissed me off and I will probably add more when I'm not feeling like throwing up. Thoughts, comments?

Comments

[counterclckwise.livejournal.com]

I think it's bullshit, all the expectations we still have for women to live up to, or else they aren't considered real women.

I actually think what it means to be "lady-like" is more degrading to woman than anything else. Looking aesthetically pleasing to men, getting married, cooking and cleaning and popping out babies? That's ancient. I mean, those things are great if you actually want to do them, but the fact we're all expected to is ridiculous. No one thinks less of a man if he's still focused more on a career than a family at 35, or if he doesn't want to shave some of his body hair. (I like your icon for this post (: )

[inferiarecoming.livejournal.com]

I know right! The whole point of the song (or what I gathered from it) was that she can 'do it like a dude' if she bloody well wants to so everyone else should feck off.

YES OMG. Yeah, it's like what we were talking about the other night! I just got super shitty about how this GUY decided he got to decide what was lady-like or not. How is this degrading to women? I mean, come on! He hasn't replied to my comment, but a lot of other people told him where to go so I hope he just pissed off with his tail between his legs.

(it's perfect, isn't it?!)

[counterclckwise.livejournal.com]

haha, hopefully he did. I know I shouldn't ever read YouTube comments cause most of the time they just piss me off, but. I do always get a sense of gratification when everyone jumps on the idiot.